Monday, November 7, 2011

Notable Quotes

"The unexamined life is not worth living."

-- Socrates

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Survey: Slight Drop in Support for NC Marriage Amendment

A new survey released Friday by Public Policy Polling shows that support among likely voters in North Carolina for what's being called Amendment One, the voter initiative that would define marriage as between only one man and one woman, is falling, depending on how the question is asked. But the question remains, "Are attitudes changing fast enough to defeat the measure in May?" According to PPP, probably not.
"The prospects are still dim for defeating the marriage amendment on North Carolina’s 2012 May primary ballot, but those who say they will probably vote then have moved slightly against it since last month. In early October, 61% said they would vote for the amendment which would make marriage between one man and one woman the only valid domestic legal union in the state, and 34% said they would vote against it. In PPP’s latest poll, that has dropped a bit to 59-35. Democrats have moved 11 points against it, from 49-44 for the amendment to 42-48 against. Balancing that, though, is independents, who are now for it, 58-37, down 12 points from 52-43."
However, when it comes to support for some kind of legal recognition of gay and lesbian relationships, there is more support among likely voters, depending on how the questions are asked:
While 59% of probable primary voters want same-sex marriage to be illegal, that is down from 63% a month ago. And the level of those who say they support at least civil unions with the same legal rights as marriage is up to 60% from 51%. Support for full marriage equality is at 26% from 22% and civil unions at 34% from 29%. Since the amendment would ban civil unions as well as marriage for gay couples, there is hope that Democrats and independents can be persuaded to vote against it. 71% of Democrats and 64% of  independents who say they will vote next May support at least civil unions, up from 60% and 59%.
This data could be the key to fighting what could be best described as an uphill battle.
The same PPP survey showed that former Charlotte mayor Pat McCrory's lead over Gov. Bev Perdue continues to increase. In October, Perdue had pulled within five points of McCrory, but is now down nine (48-39), her worst showing since April, when she trailed by 11. Her approval rating is virtually unchanged since last month, with 38% approving and 50% disapproving, versus 37-51. That still puts her in a tie for the fifth least popular governor on which PPP has polled this year. Her weakness remains her own party. 28% of Democrats disapprove, and 20% are pledging for McCrory, roughly the same as last month. According to 2008 exit polls, she lost only 9% of her own party in beating McCrory by three points.  

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Friday, November 4, 2011

Conan O'Brien Officiates Gay Wedding On Air (Video)

Late-night talk show Host Conan O'Brien took his show to New York City this week for four days of live broadcasts from the Beacon Theater to celebrate the one year anniversary of his move to TBS Thursday night the freakishly tall funny man with the gravity-defying, architecturally-styled red hear, reminiscent of the St. Louis Arch, officiated at the first same-sex wedding ever broadcast on TV.

The show's costume designer, Scott Cronick and his partner David Gorshein were married by Conan in a brief Jewish ceremony, complete with the traditional chuppah, the canopy under which the the couple stood. The ceremony was attended by friends and family from both sides, who were seated on stage.

O'Brien had told Cronick that he could pick anyone he wanted to walk him down the aisle, so he chose Bravo Vice President of Programming and host of Watch What Happens Live, Andy Cohen, creator of the Real Housewives franchise.

Cronick and Gorsheim exchanged vows they wrote themselves. Cronick told his intended, "I have one vow: I am here today and yours forever." The pair then crushed champagne glasses with their feet. After the ceremony, the couple exited the theater on a fake horse, pushed up the aisle by show crew member Ted Turner. (Not the former Mr. Jane Fonda, who founded TBS, CNN and Headline News. Another guy who really looks like him.)

Conan recently became an ordained minister in the Universal Life Church, the same church I  am ordained in, just for the occasion.

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Thursday, November 3, 2011

(A Day Late) New Wave Wednesday: "Don't Stand So Close to Me", by The Police

Don't Stand So Close to MeImage via WikipediaOkay, I know. I got so wrapped up in yesterdays Kim K post that I totally forgot about my favorite day of the week, New Wave Wednesday, until I was in the car on the way to work. For shame!!

This weeks' New Wave Fave comes to us from 1980, long before Sting became so annoying, "Don't Stand So Close to Me".

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Presidential Proclamation Recognizes Gay Adoptive Parents

President Obama has issued a proclamation declaring November National Adoption Month. The document says, in part:
"The decision to adopt a child has brought profound joy and meaning into the lives of Americans across our country.  Parents are moved to adopt for reasons as unique and varied as the children they embrace, but they are unified by the remarkable grace of their acts.  Adoptive families come in all forms.  With so many children waiting for loving homes, it is important to ensure that all qualified caregivers are given the opportunity to serve as adoptive parents, regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation, or marital status."
Read the full text here.

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Anita Bryant Wants a Gay Best Friend

Talk about a blast from the past. Not only is the notorious Anita Bryant, who launched the anti-gay crusade in the 70's that propelled the political career of Harvey Milk, still alive, she's cooperating in the writing of the HBO movie about her life and career.

Bryant, a former runner up in the Miss America pageant in the 1950's, enjoyed a successful career in pop music during the 50's and 60's. In the 70's she became the spokeswoman for the Florida orange juice industry, until she was fired over her anti-gay campaign that resulted in legislation in the sunshine state that banned gays and lesbians from being teachers.

Nothing to write homo about so far, right? Well, according to E! Online, the man writing the movie for HBO happens to be Chad Hodge, the openly gay creative genius behind the recently canceled LGBT-inclusive "Playboy Club".

E!'s Marc Malkan reports:
"I went to Oklahoma and spent three days with her and Charlie," Hodge told me at GLSEN's Respect Awards. "I was the first gay man—gay person!—she agreed to talk to in 33 years."
"She was panicked to meet me and I was panicked to meet her," said Hodge, who most recently was executive producer of The Playboy Club.
The two eventually warmed to each other. "We talked about everything," Hodge said. "Religion, homosexuality, her life and every detail of her life. I mean, everything! She really opened up to me. It started very standoffish...but then it slowly took a turn and she opened up and cried to me."
Hodge smiled, "Turns out she wants a gay best friend just like everyone else."
  Cry me a river, Bitch!

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Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Celebretard News: Kim K's Divorce Spurs Marriage Equality Activists. Really??!!

Kim Kardashian attending Maxim's 10th Annual H...Is this the best we can do? Really??It must really be a slow news cycle when all anybody can talk about is Kim Kardashian's 72-day marriage to some dumb jock who was stupid enough to even date her. People like this should be euthanized for their own good. I can honestly say that I have never watched an episode of any of the shows "reality" shows launched by any of Hollywood's trashiest family since the Lohans. In fact, I can't believe I'm actually using the K word on my site, but there is a method to my madness this morning.

For those like me who try really hard to ignore everything on E!, except Chelsea Handler and The Fashion Police, it's been nearly impossible not to hear about the news of Kim's divorce from that tall sports guy who looks like that shirtless Twightlight guy. The marriage lasted only a week longer than it took to slap together some wedding footage for a TV special, which reportedly made the big-butted diva a cool $17.9 million.

Kim's statement to the press said, in part, “After careful consideration, I have decided to end my marriage." In this case "careful consideration" means "the check cleared and I wanna go shopping".

The twits on Twitter have been having a field day with hashtags like #ThingsLongerThanKimsMarriage. Some of the more clever tweets (if there is such a thing) are:
  • "my commute to work" 
  • "her last name"
  • "a college semester"
  • "the life of my bb battery"
If you want to talk about short marriages, Kim K doesn't even come close to breaking Britney Spears' record-setting lost weekend marriage to Jason Alexander (not the Seinfeld guy), which lasted a total of 55 hours. A simple trip to the Las Vegas courthouse would uncover thousands of similar drunken "I do's" taking place every year and all of them are perfectly legal.

I think what's really sad is that this non-event is being used by Marriage Equality activists to make a point about the so-called "sanctity of marriage". Kathy Griffin twatted, “Ugh! Gay couples like Kim K & Kris H ruining the sanctity of marriage is the problem w the radical homosexual agend – oh wait, oops :)”

AmericaBlog's John Aravosis adds, “Kim Kardashian earned $17,900,000 from her wedding and divorced 72 days later (but gays ruin the sanctity of marriage).”

Do I really have to point out that using this fame whore's divorce to bolster the marriage equality movement is  scraping the bottom of the barrel? As if there aren't enough examples in history of the way breeders abuse the marital system. There have always been notable people who became famous for actually doing stuff who should have qualified for frequent flyer miles for the number of trips the took down the aisle. Elizabeth Taylor had eight marriages and divorces, but we liked her, so we understood. King Henry VIII had six wives, a few of whom actually lived to talk about it. They mostly talked to themselves, because they were either locked up in a tower or spirited away to a cloistered nunnery somewhere.

In fact, if you want to find examples of marriage abuse, look no further than your own family tree. Half of all marriages end in divorce, so the chances are pretty good that either you, your parents, your siblings, your aunts or uncles or even your own kids are, or will be, divorced. And the odds are that they're all heterosexual. If you ask any of them, they'll say they married for love, not for money or fame or because they wanted to have kids, get a green card or to seal a political alliance between feuding nations.

There are plenty of reasons why banning same-sex marriage is immoral, unAmerican and unconstitutional. We don't have to use fame whores to prove our case. Doing so only cheapens and trivializes our cause and does nothing to convince homophobes that they are wrong about us.

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Monday, October 31, 2011

Homophobic NC Senator Jim Forrester is Dead!

Homophobe Jim Forrester and his gay hair
The Gaston Gazette is reporting this evening that North Carolina Senator, Jim Forrester, the author of what's being called Amendment 1, the constitutional amendment that would define marriage as between a man and a woman, died Monday at Gaston Memorial Hospital.

Forrester, 74, a retired family practice physician, died at approximately noon Monday at Gaston Memorial Hospital after family members removed him from life support about an hour earlier. He had been admitted to the Gastonia facility on Saturday, before losing consciousness and being transferred to intensive care Sunday morning.
Doctors suspected the 11-term senator may have had a stroke that was accompanied by cranial bleeding, said his sister-in-law, Sally Beach.
Forrester had suffered from health problems for some time that required him to have regular blood transfusions. He began to have trouble walking Thursday before leaving for a trip to the mountains with his wife and sister-in-law. They returned Saturday morning so that he could be admitted at Gaston Memorial.
He and his wife, Mary Frances, have four grown children who were all contacted across the country and able to make it home by late Sunday night. Forrester was surrounded by family members when he died, Beach said.
Forrester made headlines in early October when news broke that he had falsified some of the credentials on his website, where he claimed to be a fellow at the American College of Preventive Medicine. But Michael Barry, the executive director of the American College of Preventive Medicine, says Forrester is not now and has never been a Fellow of the College.

“A Fellow is kind of our highest designation of membership,” Barry explained. “We don’t know Dr. Forrester, so I can’t speak to his motives.”

The gay blogosphere jumped all over the story and word spread like wildfire. The moral of the story is simple: Karma is a bitch.

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Happy Halloween! Best Costume and Prank EVER!! (Video)

Promotional photo of Boris Karloff from The Br...Image via WikipediaHalloween is my favorite holiday of the year. I don't dress up or go out or anything, but I love the way some people are really into it and go all out with their costumes and pranks. I also love that on this one night of the year, I can settle in and watch my favorite old monster movies from the 30's and a Ghost Hunter's live broadcast without a lot of complaining from my hubby about what he affectionately calls, "that ghost shit".

So, in recognition of all of those dedicated revelers out there who work so hard to punk unsuspecting victims for the amusement of us all, here is a video of The Best Halloween Costume and Prank EVER!!

Happy Halloween!!

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Blogs to Watch Out For: Homophobic Jesus (Video)

As an ex-Catholic, a big part of my childhood was spent learning all about Jesus and his Super Friends and how they traveled the back roads of The Holy Land spreading the good news that the new and improved Jehovah, -- now with 50% less wrath -- had turned over a new leaf and had better things to do than smite his children for every little infraction like he used to.

No more plagues of locusts, global flooding or tests of faith involving killing your own kid for this kinder, gentler supreme being. Public Relations Jesus had come to manage, massage and spin the word that God is Love and those who don't like it can just go to Hell.

Like most of you, I had never read anything, anywhere about J.C. condemning homos or our so-called "lifestyle". But apparently crucifixion and rising from the dead changes a man. Not to be outdone by his flock of inbred followers, the lord and savior of the universe is back. Not in a Rapture kind of way (sorry Rev. Camping). This man-god has finally learned to use the interwebs to get the message out to us mere mortals that he doesn't like the butt sex any more than Marcus Bachmann likes dressing as Ethel Merman and singing "Everything's Comin' Up Roses" in the bathroom mirror when the wife is on the campaign trail.

On his official blog,, Lord Lambchop (Lamb of God, get it?) says, "Famine, genocide, cancer, oh the suffering of my people! I have heard you crying in the night and so I have returned... but first things first: Gay Marriage."

Mr. Christ goes on to say, "It really irks my dad that some of his children are "coming out of the closet," embracing who they think the are, "finding love" and desiring to live their lives in monogamy. I ask you, how can we teach our children to respect others and to truly love with these damn gays around? The homosexual lifestyle is a choice and granting them the same rights as heterosexuals is a moral question and just plain wrong."

To seal the deal, the savior with two daddies adds, "Join me in the fight today, together we can pray the gay away!"

So, in summary -- and you might want to write this down -- loving, committed relationships between consenting adults of the same sex: Bad. Institutionalized pedophilia overseen by an old guy in a dress living in a palace in Rome: Good. 

This has been a public service announcement. For more information, visit

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Thursday, October 27, 2011

Retro Video: "Free Your Mind", by En Vogue (Music Video)

Best of En Vogue
Image via Wikipedia

This song has been in my head for the last few days, so I figured I'd share it here. I love the message, the look and sound of this video. What's not to love about En Vogue?

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Latest Polls Show Increased Acceptance of Marriage Equality

The Pew Research Center has just released the results of its latest polling on public attitudes towards Marriage Equality. The charts below show increased acceptance across the board for every age group and religion, accept for two.

Predictably, evangelical Christians continue to hold fast to their misinterpretation of of what it means to love thy neighbor. But the biggest surprise is that support among the spoiled yuppie spawn known as Generation X has actually decreased.

What the fuck is up with that? It's not our fault that the real world expects more of you than your parents did and that listing skateboarding as a skill on your resume didn't get you that Fortune 500 job. Get a haircut, shave that stupid gotee, put down the X-Box controller, move out of your mother's basement and get a f'ing life!

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Wednesday, October 26, 2011

New Wave Wednesday: "Homosapien", by Pete Shelley

My New Wave pick of the week is a deep cut from the UK's Pete Shelley. Shelly formed his first band,  Buzzcocks in 1975 after seeing the Sex Pistols in concert. A year later Buzzcocks debuted as an opening act for the Sex Pistols. The band went on to release such New Wave/Punk hits as "Orgasm Addict" and "Love Bites".

Shelley struck out on his own and released his first UK hit, Homosapien in 1981. The song was banned by the BBC for "explicit references to gay sex".

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Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Material Girls Rufus Wainwright and Sean Lennon Stage Impromptu Concert at Occupy Wall St.

I can't pretend to understand the Occupy Wall St. "movement" any more that I understand the Teabaggers. They both stem from the "Americans are angry" meme and want to "take back America" from some shadowy, nefarious super-villains who somehow stole it when we weren't paying attention. By the way, we never pay attention, so who's really to blame?

And I really can't comprehend how going from loafing on the couch to loafing in the park constitutes a political movement, but what do I know? I'm just trying to get some legal recognition of my God-given right to marry the man I love.

Maybe we're doing it all wrong. Instead of all the blogging, lobbying, organizing, letter writing, petitioning, registering voters and marching through the streets of DC, we should just plop our lazy asses in a makeshift tent city somewhere and whine about how hard life is for a few months. Apparently that's what passes for political activism in a post-slacker society.

Anyway, after several weeks of this bullshit, I still don't know what the occupiers hope to accomplish, and you know what? I really don't care. Because when the wealthy spawn of wealthy celebrities start showing up and pretending that they feel your pain and you swallow it hook, line and sinker, it only proves to me what a fucking idiot you really are.

So, without further ado, here is Sean "I got Beatle money!" Lennon and Rufus Wainwright pretending to give a shit in New York's Zuccotti Park, doing their version of the Madonna classic "Material Girl".

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Monday, October 24, 2011

Preacher Gets it Wrong on Doomsday Prediction... AGAIN!

Crazy-ass preacher Harold Camping
Here I sit staring at the blank screen of my eight-year-old laptop wondering what the day will bring. What will the traffic be like on the way to work? Will I get my insurance license problems sorted out? Will that doomsday preacher guy, Harold Camping, explain why he was wrong about the Apocalypse again?

That's right folks, in case you weren't paying attention, Rapture 3.0 was due on Friday, the 21st. Camping, who looks suspiciously like the preacher demon from Poltergeist II, had predicted that the world would end back on May 21. When the date came and went without incident, Camping emerged from his hidey hole a few days later looking like a groundhog wondering where his shadow went and had a lot of splainin' to do.

The myopic prognosticator explained that it was simply a mathematical error and that the real date for the End Times would be October 21, 2011. To be honest, I was so busy on Friday that I didn't even notice, although traffic did seem a little lighter.

I wonder what he'll have to say this time around to the thousands of morons that were duped by his medicine show-style salvation. You remember them, don't you? The people out on the street corners last spring who sold all their worldly possessions, spent their life savings and maxed out their credit cards based on Camping's assurances that they wouldn't be around when the bills arrived? They weren't anywhere to be seen in the media this time around. That's probably because they're all occupying Wallstreet.

You see, it's the big banks' fault they're broke, not their own or their crazy-ass preacher's, because a preacher would never lie, cheat or steal from his gullible flock and after all, overspending yourself into the poorhouse is the American way.

There's an app for that.
For the record, Camping also predicted the end was nye back in 1994, but instead of the wrath of the almighty, we got eight years of Bill and Hilary Clinton.

So maybe math isn't Camping's strong suit. Or maybe he's just over-thinking it. At 90 years old, the real end times are probably his own. He just over-generalized. My advice to Father (End) Time is to check out  iTunes and download the free Rapture Predictor app. Sure, it's bullshit too, but at least it's free.

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Friday, October 21, 2011

Southern Discomfort: A Queer Yankee in the Queen City

What the fuck?
As I forge a new life for myself and my little family here in the Charlotte area, I can't help but feel a little bit like I've stepped through the looking glass into an alternate universe. Everything seems familiar but slightly off. Kind of like Canada, but warmer and without the silly accent.

I've moved at least 19 times in my life and lived in four states and the District of Columbia. I like to think I'm adaptable. I can get along with just about anybody from socialites to rednecks and career women to soccer moms. I have friends of every race, religion, sexual orientation, gender identity and socio-economic background, so why do I feel so off balance here in North Carolina? 

The neighborhood is very nice and the homes are well kept, but every now and then you catch sight of something unfamiliar. There are trees and birds I've never seen before and the tea is too damned sweet. That must be why all the cashiers at the Bi-Lo supermarket call you either sugar, honey or sweetie. Yes, I know, the name "Bi-Lo" itself sounds like code for married guys that like a little dick on the side, but what are you gonna do?

Restaurant food here seems to be limited to two choices of preparation: deep fried or smoked. They have something here that they call "liver mush" or "liver pudding" that I really don't want to know anything about.

As I learn my way around the unfamiliar streets of my new habitat, I find that people here either drive waaaay to slow or waaaay too fast. If you ask someone for directions, they feel the need to tell you the three or four different ways to get there. God help you if there are two or more people involved in the conversation, because they'll have a twenty minute argument over which way is best. "Thanks for your help, but I really just need one route, hopefully the most direct and with the fewest turns." In the time it takes to get directions, I could have found my way there and back on foot three times, mowed my lawn, done my laundry and collected social security.

Speaking of social security, have I mentioned that we're now living next to my partner's folks? To keep it simple, I refer to them as my in-laws, not to their faces, mind you. That would be too confusing for them. They're very nice people and they've been incredibly supportive and welcoming to me, even though they never say the "G" word. According to some unwritten and unspoken law, I am also forbidden to say the word in their presence as well, which means I can't discuss my blogging and activism with them or in front of them. I figure they'll work it out for themselves when they see me on the evening news at an LGBT rights rally. It's a little like "Everybody Loves Raymond" meets "Sordid Lives". While they "try" to respect our privacy and let us live independent lives, we are ever mindful that our every move is being closely monitored from across the driveway. 

Curiously enough, Charlotte is called The Queen City and yes, there are signs of gay life here in the Tar Heel State.  (What the hell is a "tar heel" anyway?) There is a group forming with he help of HRC and Equality NC to be called Equality Charlotte. They have already held their first rally in response to the upcoming anti-gay marriage equality ballot measure. I've been to a couple of their planning meetings at the LGBT center and met several of the organizers. Some very talented and intelligent people are involved. I look forward to doing what I can to help. A web site is in the works. I'll post a link as soon as it's up.

So, as I proceed gayly forward into the uncharted territory of the latest chapter of my life, I promise to keep you posted. I've got some ideas for revising this here blog thingy, which may include a new name and a new look, but you have my word that I will continue to be my same old smart-ass self. As for my new Carolina neighbors, to borrow a line from Jack Nicholson as The Joker, "Wait 'til they get a load o' me."  

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Thursday, October 20, 2011

Prince, "Purple Rain" (Music Video)

Something to get your Spirit Day started.

Spirit Day 2011: Millions Wearing Purple to Honor LGBT Youth

Spirit Day was created last year by teenager Brittany McMillan to call attention to the problem of anti-gay teen bullying and those kids who chose to end their lives because they just couldn't take it any more. 

For those who may not know/remember, in the rainbow flag, purple is the color that represents spirit. 

GLAAD is taking the lead this year and released the following statement:

Last year, millions took part in Spirit Day by wearing purple, changing their Facebook and Twitter profile pictures to purple, and sharing the message via social media.  Public figures – from the cast of Glee, to Ellen DeGeneres, to Hillary Clinton – took part as well. This year, millions more are expected to show their support – and the support among public figures has grown. Celebrities like Conan O’Brien, Heather Graham, Cher and Aziz Ansari have pledged to go purple. Some of the nation’s biggest brands, including Facebook, Yahoo!, PepsiCo and Viacom are encouraging millions of their employees to participate. MTV will change the color of its logo to support a cause for just the second time in the network’s history.

Beyond the nation’s media, celebrities and brands, students and youth are taking action:

-       At Palisades Park Jr./Sr. High School in New Jersey: The students and faculty have been made aware of Spirit Day. Everyone has been asked to wear purple on Thursday. At the end of the day, all students and staff members wearing purple will be called down to the lobby to take a picture.

-       At Troy High School in Troy Michigan: The Gay-Straight Alliance is distributing purple wristbands and asking teachers to have a one minute word with the class explaining Spirit Day and handing out wristbands.

Churches and congregations are also ‘going purple.’

This year’s Spirit Day, like last year’s, has an urgency to it. There’s a need for our communities and our culture to show these young people that they are accepted and cared for. Every person who wears purple on Thursday creates a slightly bigger safe space in the world of an LGBT young person.

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Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Fight Bullying and Teen Suicide: Wear Purple on Spirit Day, October 20


Millions of Americans wear purple on Spirit Day as a sign of support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) youth and to speak out against bullying. Spirit Day was started in 2010 by teenager Brittany McMillan as a response to the young people who had taken their own lives. Observed annually on October 20, individuals, schools, organizations, corporations, media professionals and celebrities wear purple, which symbolizes spirit on the rainbow flag. Getting involved is easy -- participants are asked to simply "go purple" on October 20 as we work to create a world in which LGBT teens are celebrated and accepted for who they are.
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New Wave Wednesday: "Just What I Needed", by The Cars

The Cars, 1984. L-R: Benjamin Orr, Greg Hawkes...The CarsThe Cars were the  ost influential band of the New Wave/Punk era. Led by Ric Ocasek, the band topped the charts during the late 70's and early 80's with hit's like "Drive", "My Best Friend's Girl" and "You Might Think".

This week's pick, "Just What I Needed" comes from 1978, via The Midnight Special, which was a TV show that came on every Friday night and featured live performances by the top rock bands of the time. We could use a show like that now.

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Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Guest Post: You Don't Mind, by Mark Cox

Guest Blogger, Mark Cox
The following guest post is by Gastonia, NC resident Mark Cox and appeared in The Gaston Gazette on October 13, 2011 in the Letters to the Editor section.
You don't mind gay people when you need your hair or make up done.
You don't mind gay people helping you book your travel arrangements or help you board your airplane or to get you something to drink on your flight.
You don't mind gay people when you want to eat out or want to be entertained in the movies, theater or television or want to listen to music.
You don't mind gay people when you want to make a banking transaction or ask for a loan. 
You don't mind gay people when you need medical care, nursing or doctors' opinions. 
You don't mind gay people when you want flowers for a funeral or for your home, or someone or help you decorate your house. 
 You don't mind gay people when you put on that new dress or that new suit for church. 
You don't mind gay people when you read their books or articles. 
You don't mind gay people when you need an attorney to get you out of trouble, or a social worker to help you in some way. 
You don't mind gay people teaching your children and grandchildren, as long as you don't know and can't tell they are gay.
You don't mind gay people building your cars and trucks and even servicing them. 
You don't mind gay people manufacturing everything that goes into your home and even helping design the products. 
You don't mind gay people fighting in wars, defending your country and your rights as long as they are quiet about it. 
You don't mind gay people when they are transporting you to the hospital. 
You don't mind gay people when they are directing traffic or filing a police report. 
You don't mind gay people when they are helping you buy or sell a house. 
And you don't mind gay people when they make beautiful music at the symphony or even in your church. 
Imagine your world without the talents and hard work that gay people give and that you are accustomed to. If there is a job to be done, gay people somewhere are doing it. Gay people will even help you organize your closet. Don't expect them to live in theirs. Gay people work shoulder-to-shoulder with you every day.
Gay people don't mind helping you and enriching your life... UNTIL you try and deny them the same rights that you enjoy. Stand up for EQUAL RIGHTS for ALL PEOPLE. Stand against legislated hate. Stand against DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act), now known as Amendment One. Stand up for marriage as a civil right for ALL people. (KMC 9/28/11)

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Monday, October 17, 2011

Minister warns: "Wank with the Wife in the Room or You're Gay."

Pastor Mark "Oops! I dropped the soap" Driscoll
From the wacky world of closeted anti-gay ministers come the latest admonition warning straight guys that masturbation can be a for of homosexuality if there's not a woman in the room with you. Pastor Mark Driscoll of Seattle's Mars Hill Church says in a pamphlet he wrote:
“Masturbation can be a form of homosexuality because it is a sexual act that does not involve a woman. If a man were to masturbate while engaged in other forms of sexual intimacy with his wife then he would not be doing so in a homosexual way. However, any man who does so without his wife in the room is bordering on homosexuality activity, particularly if he’s watching himself in a mirror and being turned on by his own male body.” - Pastor Mark Driscoll of Seattle’s Mars Hill Church, from Porn-Again Christian: A Frank Discussion on Pornography & Masturbation for God’s Men.
Sounds like the voice of self-loathing experience to me, gays and girls. Pastor Mark has just told every man on the planet that ever lived that they're all gay. Projecting much? Someone is enjoying the sight of his own male body in the mirror a little too much. Watch out for this guy at the gym, fellas.

I always thought that spanking the monkey was a way to get some relief without having to go through all the song and dance required to get the wifey in the mood and deal with all the cuddling bullshit afterwords. But what do I know? From what I've always heard, women get really annoyed when they find out how much their man likes to polish his knob, so why would a guy want her around when he's fantasizing about Sophia Vergara?

This one sounds like a really bad Jeff Foxworthy joke (okay, that's redundant): "If you're an anti-gay minister who knows way too much about male masturbation, you might just be a big old 'mo."

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Actor Zachary Quinto is Out and Proud

Actor Zachary Quinto (Heroes, Star Trek) has finally and officially come out in an interview for this week's New York Magazine. Rumors had circulated for years about Quinto, but he never publicly acknowledge being gay, even cutting short interviews that dared to ask about his private life.

Benjamin Wallace writes in Sundays' online issue of New York:
"Quinto has played a series of gay roles, including on Tori Spelling’s TV show So NoTORIous, and on the new FX series American Horror Story, where he plays the kinky dead owner of the haunted house, and has been outspoken about gay-rights issues. Last year, the Times, in profiling him for Angels, noted that “the blogosphere is rife with speculation about his sexuality” but that “he prefers not to feed the rumor mill with either substantiation or dismissal.” That has changed. A little while later in our conversation, speaking of the cultural bipolarity that can see gay marriage legalized in New York in the same year that yet another gay teenager, Jamey Rodemeyer, was bullied and killed himself, Quinto says, “And again, as a gay man I look at that and say there’s a hopelessness that surrounds it, but as a human being I look at it and say ‘Why? Where’s this disparity coming from, and why can’t we as a culture and society dig deeper to examine that?’ We’re terrified of facing ourselves.”
Read the full story here.

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Friday, October 14, 2011

U.S. Supreme Court Refuses to Hear Gay Adoption Case

The Supreme court denied a request to hear an appeal in the case of two gay dads who are suing the sate of Louisiana over its refusal to include the names of both fathers on their adopted son's revised birth certificate.  The Washington Blade reports:

The court denied the petition for a writ of certiorari, which was filed by Lambda Legal, in the case of Adar v. Smith. Justices didn’t offer a comment on why they wouldn’t hear the lawsuit, which effectively ended the path for the litigation.
Kenneth Upton, supervising senior staff attorney in Lambda’s south central regional office in Dallas, said the Supreme Court is “leaving untouched a dangerous” previously issued ruling that leaves same-sex parents who have adopted or plan to adopt “treated differently from state to state.”
“By denying this writ, the Supreme Court is leaving untouched a dangerous Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals ruling that carves out an exception to the Full Faith and Credit Clause of the U.S. Constitution and to the uniformly recognized respect for judgments that states have come to rely upon,” Upton said. “This decision leaves adopted children and their parents vulnerable in their interactions with officials from other states.”
The case involves Oren Adar and Mickey Smith, a gay couple who in 2006 adopted their Louisiana-born son in New York, where a judge issued an adoption decree. In 2007, the couple attempted to obtain a new birth certificate for their child in part so Smith could extend his health insurance coverage to his son.
However, State Registrar Darlene Smith wouldn’t issue a certificate with both adopted parents’ names, saying Louisiana doesn’t recognize adoption by unmarried parents.
In October 2007, Lambda filed a lawsuit on the basis that the registrar was violating the U.S. Constitution’s Full Faith and Credit Clause and Equal Protection Clause. Lambda argued that under the Full Faith and Credit Clause, judgments issued by a court in one state, such as New York, must be legally binding in other states, such as Louisiana.
Read the full story here.

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Thursday, October 13, 2011

Asheville Activists Launch We Do Campaign for Marriage Equality (Video)

In an effort to call attention to the fight for marriage equality in North Carolina, more than a dozen gay and lesbian couples from Campaign for Southern Equality launched the We Do campaign on October 3rd. The couples have applied for marriage licenses, knowing they'd be denied, and recorded the process for a YouTube video.

What is most moving about this video is that the clerks all seem to be sympathetic and genuinely sorry that they can't issue licenses to the couples until the law changes. Unfortunately, recent polling shows two-thirds support for banning same-sex marriage by amending the state constitution, depending on how the question is worded.

Hat tip to Matt Comer at Q-Notes.

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Wednesday, October 12, 2011

"We Are All Equal" PSA Responds to NC Marriage Amendment (Video)

For more information about how you can help stop North Carolina's hateful Amendment 1, visit Charlotte Votes Against Amendment One on FaceBook or  

Quack of the Week (10-12-11)

Visit for more Duck Toons, featuring Buckminster Duck. Posted with permission.

Former Ex-Gay Leader Admits Gays Have Nothing to Repent

Ex-ex-gay John Smid

John Smid, the former leader of Exodus International's largest ministry now admits that he is gay and that gays can't be converted to straight. On his website, Smid responds to a letter from a reader who is confused about Smid's change of position on the gays. The writer asks, "Are you saying homosexuality isn’t wrong or are you saying it is wrong, but we have to be patient while God’s goodness brings the homosexual to repentance? I see that you are saying homosexuals can be Christians, but can they remain that way…never expecting a change?"

Smid responds:


Repentance from something means it has to be something you can control, like actions.

"So often people will say someone needs to “repent” from homosexuality. It is something that actually cannot be repented of! People are, or they are not, homosexual. It is an intrinsic part of their being or personally, my being. One cannot repent of something that is unchangeable. I have gone through a tremendous amount of grief over the many years that I spoke of change, repentance, reorientation and such, when, barring some kind of miracle, none of this can occur with homosexuality. The article today is a great example of how we as Christians pervert the gospel as it relates to homosexuality as though homosexuals aren’t welcome in the kingdom unless they repent (which many interpret to change). But since homosexuality is not “repentable” then we put homosexuals into an impossible bind." 

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